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Bikes. Girlfriends. Candy. Did Your Mom Ever Stop You from Doing Something and You Found Out Later She Was Right?

When I was in fifth grade, I rode a bus to town for swimming lessons at the Y.

I walked to school about half a mile away.

I walked three blocks to the candy store to spend my 25-cent allowance every week.

I rode my bike a mile or two to the shopping center from time to time.

Why Would Mom Say No?

One afternoon, my girlfriend and I decided to ride up to the shopping center.

My Mom said I couldn’t go.

As she rarely stopped me like this and I wasn’t used to it, I asked her why not.

“It is almost dusk and cars can’t see you well at night.”

“But, I have a light on the front of my bike and a reflector on the back.

Besides, there are streetlights all the way up from our house to the shopping center.”


You Know What Happened

I didn’t go, but my girlfriend did.

The streetlight on the corner where she was hit was out.

She broke her arm. Her bike was destroyed.

I silently thanked my Mom.

Bike Safety

Of course, this was in the days before everyone wore bike helmets.

But, a helmet is no match for a car.

There are several danger points between bikes and cars, in particular, turning and passing.

The site recommends strategies for common situations between bikes and cars.

In addition to lights, reflective vests and mirrors to see behind you, they suggest tactics such as:

1. Wave your arms if you see a car pulling out from a side street or driveway so they can see you more easily.

2. Ride to the left of your lane, not the right, so cars can see you more easily.

3. Do not ride on sidewalks. Cars do not expect you in crosswalks at intersections.

4. Don’t pass on the right, or wait at a stop light to the right of a stopped car. Stop ahead of them or behind them so they can see you.

5. Ride as if you were invisible, so it doesn’t matter whether the car can see you, you are not in danger.

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Was there ever a time when you disagreed with your Mom, only to find out she was wise, after all?

Do your children have any such stories about you?

Do your grandchildren?

To you and the wisdom you’ve earned, if only from others.

Carol Covin, “Granny-Guru”

Author, Who Gets to Name Grandma? The Wisdom of Mothers and Grandmothers”

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