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Have Your Children?

“You know, we don’t let our children play with them.”

My neighbor was trying to warn me about her next-door-neighbor’s children.

I stopped her with, “We let our children choose their own friends.”

I liked the boy she was talking about, who was our son’s age.

He was sweet.

He seemed needy, as the child of a family who moves often does.

I had no idea what family troubles drove them.

But, whatever they were, my neighbor thought the boy a bad influence and wouldn’t let her children hang out with him.

While I appreciated her concern and did not resent the warning, I thought it important that children learn to judge character.

I trusted my son’s instincts.

Several months later, I noticed he wasn’t playing with the boy anymore.

“You’re not friends, any more?”

“No. He was mean to me.”

“You know, you’re probably his only friend.”

“Yeah. I know. You’d think he wouldn’t be mean to me.”

The family moved again a few months later.

This article first appeared on grandmotherdiaries.com.


Did you ever have to stand up for your children’s choices?

How do you teach your grandchildren to judge character?

To trust their instincts?


To you and the values you teach your grandchildren.


Carol Covin, Granny-Guru

Author, “Who Gets to Name Grandma? The Wisdom of Mothers and Grandmothers”


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